My life as I become myself

oh-she-glows:

Self love. This isn’t something I am used to. I usually hide my body in any way I can. For the longest while I wouldn’t even open my eyes when I took a shower. I wear layers upon layers at work because it’s cold and I feel the need to hide my body. I have had a strong dislike of my body for far too long. This is the only one I have. So why not love it now? Why not love it before I make changes to it?  Why not love the only body I am ever going to have? 

I feel society tells everyone to look a certain way. As a woman, I have to have large but perky breasts, a small waist, a flat stomach, and thighs that don’t touch. The fact of the matter is, I have none of that. I am small chested, have an above average sized waist, I have tummy rolls, and my thighs; those bad boys touch whether I’m sitting down or standing up. But that doesn’t mean I don’t have a good body? No.

I can do so much with my body. I can eat food. I can draw. I can walk for miles and much much more. I can do so much more than I think I can. Just because my body isn’t stick thin does not mean that I should not love my body. 

I may not love how my body looks every day, but I did today and I took advantage of that. I just want to remind myself (and everyone else) that there is beauty in everything. There is beauty in your tummy rolls, in your hands, and your feet, and everywhere in between. You are beautiful inside and out, and you should love yourself for that. You should love your body for that and everything it does for you.

(via lilyskinned)

halleberiberi:

purveyor-of-sin:

To realise that all your life.
All you love, all you hate, all your memory, all your pain
it was all the same thing. It was all the same dream,
a dream that you had inside a locked room.
That dream about being a person.
And like a lot of dreams……..There’s a monster at the end of it.

Oh good, the little beer can man.

(via boyswanna-be-her)

And on that note:
Scenes from a hairy sofa

She insists on having her hand held if your hand is anywhere near her (whether she is sitting/standing or laying down), this usually results in a leg massage which makes her get this super serious expression. Sometimes though it is a little more lady like and she just enjoys the act of being dotted on (as in this picture).

I twisted my ankle Sunday afternoon. It has been weak since I fractured it in the 6th grade and had to wear a cast for 3 months, so it has a tendency to do this. However this time resulted in instant swelling and pain, to the extent that Aaron thought it might be broken. However, today there was minimal swelling and much more mobility, I just can’t wait to get out and walk again. These things always seem to happen when you finally start to get into the swing of regular exercise. And Suka is going a bit crazy/can’t understand why I am being so lazy. You should see the looks of disgust she gives me, lol.

wildcat2030:

Multiple Lovers, Without Jealousy -Polyamorous people still face plenty of stigmas, but some studies suggest they handle certain relationship challenges better than monogamous people do. - When I met Jonica Hunter, Sarah Taub, and Michael Rios on a typical weekday afternoon in their tidy duplex in Northern Virginia, a very small part of me worried they might try to convert me. All three live there together, but they aren’t roommates—they’re lovers. Or rather, Jonica and Michael are. And Sarah and Michael are. And so are Sarah and whomever she happens to bring home some weekends. And Michael and whomever he might be courting. They’re polyamorous. Michael is 65, and he has a chinstrap beard that makes him look like he just walked off an Amish homestead. Jonica is 27, with close-cropped hair, a pointed chin, and a quiet air. Sarah is 46 and has an Earth Motherly demeanor that put me at relative ease. Together, they form a polyamorous “triad”— one of the many formations that’s possible in this jellyfish of a sexual preference. “There’s no one way to do polyamory” is a common refrain in “the community.” Polyamory—which literally means “many loves”—can involve any number of people, either cohabiting or not, sometimes all having sex with each other, and sometimes just in couples within the larger group. Sarah and Michael met 15 years ago when they were both folk singers and active in the polyamorous community. Both of them say they knew from a young age that there was something different about their sexuality. “Growing up, I never understood why loving someone meant putting restrictions on relationships,” Michael said. “What I love about polyamory is that everything is up for modification,” Sarah says. “There are no ‘shoulds.’ You don’t have to draw a line between who is a lover and who is a friend. It’s about what is the path of my heart in this moment.”
go read.. fascinating..
(via Multiple Lovers, Without Jealousy - The Atlantic)

mintyfreshprincess

For all those stupid canons that seem baffled by your relationship, lol

wildcat2030:

Multiple Lovers, Without Jealousy
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Polyamorous people still face plenty of stigmas, but some studies suggest they handle certain relationship challenges better than monogamous people do.
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When I met Jonica Hunter, Sarah Taub, and Michael Rios on a typical weekday afternoon in their tidy duplex in Northern Virginia, a very small part of me worried they might try to convert me. All three live there together, but they aren’t roommates—they’re lovers. Or rather, Jonica and Michael are. And Sarah and Michael are. And so are Sarah and whomever she happens to bring home some weekends. And Michael and whomever he might be courting. They’re polyamorous. Michael is 65, and he has a chinstrap beard that makes him look like he just walked off an Amish homestead. Jonica is 27, with close-cropped hair, a pointed chin, and a quiet air. Sarah is 46 and has an Earth Motherly demeanor that put me at relative ease. Together, they form a polyamorous “triad”— one of the many formations that’s possible in this jellyfish of a sexual preference. “There’s no one way to do polyamory” is a common refrain in “the community.” Polyamory—which literally means “many loves”—can involve any number of people, either cohabiting or not, sometimes all having sex with each other, and sometimes just in couples within the larger group. Sarah and Michael met 15 years ago when they were both folk singers and active in the polyamorous community. Both of them say they knew from a young age that there was something different about their sexuality. “Growing up, I never understood why loving someone meant putting restrictions on relationships,” Michael said. “What I love about polyamory is that everything is up for modification,” Sarah says. “There are no ‘shoulds.’ You don’t have to draw a line between who is a lover and who is a friend. It’s about what is the path of my heart in this moment.”

go read.. fascinating..

(via Multiple Lovers, Without Jealousy - The Atlantic)

mintyfreshprincess For all those stupid canons that seem baffled by your relationship, lol